Sunday, May 27, 2007


May 28th 1959. Some days you just don't forget. It was hot, humid, and the air conditioning at the First Baptist Church in Edmond Oklahoma had gone out. On top of that, all ten siblings of the bride were in the wedding. I waited at the front so long I needed to shave again. I thought the event would never transpire.

After six hours [ministerially speaking] she came in. One look and I knew she was worth the agony of the wait. I can still see her start down the aisle. I had sung a very special song to her many times. [This was when music WAS really music.]

First a boy and a girl meet each other
Then they sit down to talk for awhile
In your heart you want her for a lover
While each step draws you closer to the aisle

You may start with a simple conversation
Like darling please put me on trial
Then you'll know in your heart she is just for you
While each step draws you closer to the aisle

Then you put a ring on her finger
And the tears start flowing about
In your heart you'll now she is just for you
While each step draws you closer to the aisle

The preacher did his part. [He was her dad] He asked "do you?" We both said "I do." He said "you are." And we were married at the ripe old age of 17 [her] and 18. [Me]. I kissed her and was perspiring so badly [the heat you know] I slid off her lips. Forty-eight years 28th...I'm still kissing her but not sliding off as I once did. It's created a few problems across the years. Four children, thirteen grandchildren and one great-grand child. But as the country song says "If I had it to do all over...I'd do it all over again."

Now, you're probably wondering what could have possessed Mary to do it and to stay with me so long. She wasn't too sure the night before the wedding. She got cold feet. She doubted slightly. I fixed that. I reminded her It was God's will. This was back in the days when I knew God's will for everyone if they would just listen to me. Some did some didn't. She did. I'm glad. I think she is too.

But to break a blog fast to celebrate this day I do need to speak seriously for a moment. [Though Mary and I have learned to not take much too seriously.] What does go into a marriage enabling it to last for forty-eight years?

Only the Grace of God and the reality of Christ as our life is the real answer. But to break it down into bite size portions I would say......

Acceptance....We're learning to accept each other where we are, as we are, with no demands for change made by the other.

Respect....We're learning to appreciate each other as individuals NOT defined by the other. Funny how the Bible DOESN'T teach the "two shall become one." When someone says that to you a wise question to ask them would be..."which one?" It does teach the "two shall become one flesh." But that's the kissing part. It kind of seals the union of two complete, whole, unique individuals in a life long covenant sealing it with....that kiss. [And a lot more if you get my drift.]

Commitment....We're learning to be genuinely committed to the life we have in Christ by the Grace of God and a willingness to change as we continue to grow in every way. You do have the chance you know [if you stick around with each other long enough] to grow up, older, wiser, more gracious, more forgiving and, you know, all those christian things that are really just His life experienced.

In fact, the key, if there is one, may be in those first two words in each of the preceding paragraphs..."We're learning." If that ever stops you're dead in the water and the marriage will start leaking and probably sink. We've had some leaks, fixed them, and then we find some more. But the Grace of God is a gorilla of a glue.

That's the only way Mary's done it. Me? I've been perfect for the past thirty or forty years. :)

The truth really is Mary is that gorilla glue [Grace] embodied in a woman. Were that not a fact forty-eight would have never happened. My true thoughts of her are still those thoughts I had when I saw her start down that aisle a long time ago. The line of another song says what those thoughts were and are..."She's close enough to perfect for me."

Happy anniversary Mary. Thank you for the best years of my life.


Monday, May 21, 2007


The following are the thoughts of my good friend and former staff member turned Senior Pastor to Paul and Mary Burleson for the past ten years, Chuck Andrews. Chuck is now on a heart transplant list awaiting a new heart. But the old one, it will become obvious to anyone reading his words, while having lost capacity physically, is still pumping in the body of a man who knows and loves the Lord and is feeding a mind and spirit that are clearly functioning at a high level. Read and enjoy as did I.

Authority, Leadership, & Relationships

After reading Paul Burleson’s post about Authority In The Local Church the following thoughts and ideas came to me. In the Old Covenant people were born into their position of priest or king. Their authority was inherent in their person according to their birthright. Prophets were called into their positions of authority and a stereotypical personality doesn’t appear to be a prerequisite to the call.

The following may show how historically culture has influenced our thinking in the matter of “authority” in the local church of the New Covenant.“The Divine Right of Kings states that a monarch owes his rule to the will of God, not to the will of his subjects, parliament, the aristocracy, or any other competing authority." This doctrine continued with the claim that any attempt to depose a monarch or to restrict his powers ran contrary to the will of God.” [Wikipedia ] A Priest is defined as “One who is designated an authority on religious matters. In some churches, especially the Anglican Communion, Eastern Orthodox Church, and Roman Catholic Church, the ordained church leader who serves a congregation of believers is called a priest. The priests in these churches administer the sacraments, preach, and care for the needs of their congregations.” [The American Heritage Dictionary of the English Language, 4th edition, published by Houghton Mifflin Company.]

A more evangelical term is Prophet. Defined by the The American Heritage Dictionary of the English Language, 4th edition, published by Houghton Mifflin Company as ..."1- A person who speaks by divine inspiration or as the interpreter through whom the will of a god is expressed. 2- A person gifted with profound moral insight and exceptional powers of expression. 3- A predictor; a soothsayer. 4- The chief spokesperson of a movement or cause."

In most of the SBC pastoral training I’ve been through and, for that matter, most of the evangelical pastors I have been around have put these three historical cultural ideas together and come up with an understanding of their own gift and calling. They owe their rule (kingship) to the will of God and to question their authority is to oppose the will of God. Though, confessionally, they verbally give ascent to the priesthood of the believer, they believe themselves to be ordained, educated, and authorized by God to administer the ordinances, preach, and be the all around expert on ministry. And when they speak it is as the inspired interpreter of God’s word and will with irrefutable insight (because God told them) and they use oratorical persuasion to convince people that they are right. We are trained to hold this professional position of pastor. So rationally, biblically, spiritually, and culturally I defended the “authority because of position and person” view myself and believed it whole heartedly. My identity was wrapped up in being a prophet, priest, and king--contemporarily, culturally, and sometimes compassionately called pastor.

There are some truths in this understanding—we do owe everything to the will of God; we do believe in the priesthood of the believer (at least in theory); and preaching is a ministry of inspiration, insight, and public speaking. Also, there is nothing wrong with being trained through education and mentoring. I don’t believe there is a problem with being a pastor professionally and doing everything you can to be the best pastor you can be. Diligently leading is not only commendable but commanded in the scriptures. In Romans 12:8 those who are gifted as leaders are to express that gift "with diligence." “The elders who rule (to lead out in care for) well are to be considered worthy of double honor, especially those who work hard (persistent strenuous labor) at preaching and teaching.” (1 Ti 5:17).

Yet, more often that not, we are seduced by our own egos to swallow, hook-line-and-sinker, the historical cultural perception of authority. Pastors who are more concerned with authority than leadership use that perception to defend their authoritarian posture. In word or deed they say something like, “God has called me, ordained me, and anointed me so don’t question my authority. After all, I have a degree, license, and ordination hanging on the wall.” Then they throw in something like “It’s very dangerous to do anything against the Lord’s anointed.” Their authority and identity is postured in “I am the pastor!”

In support of this seduction, it seems that in today’s church growth movement, churches are looking for a savior who will redeem their church from irrelevancy, the next king who will lead them to kingdom growth, (more numbers) a priest who will represent them before God, and a prophet who will confidently and effectively tell them God’s will for their lives. As pastors we are all too often more than pleased to be that person, if we can, and if we can’t, we judge ourselves against those who can.

Thus, what is pragmatically a pastoral health, wealth, and prosperity mindset, comes through in our conventions and conferences, then it filters into our churches. Paraded before us are a few men, [and fewer women] who are highly acclaimed because they are successful as defined by our culture. Then with all the right verbiage and pragmatic values we deceive ourselves into believing that if we can look, lead, and lecture like them we too will be successful as defined by our religious culture. The mindset becomes, God wants all pastors to be dynamic preachers, charismatic personalities, and gifted CEOs. He wants all churches to have continual numerical growth in attendance, finances, and ministries. If we’re not being that kind of pastor and if our church is not experiencing that kind of growth then it’s because we are not allowing God to develop us into the leader He wants us to be.

Antiquity has become relevant in this post-modern cultural phenomenon.Whether these values are by the Spirit or the flesh it makes no difference. Visible results are what matters. Today, in this Western culture, it is not uncommon for a local church to be developed and grow around a charismatic (not theologically but personality) pastor. With the advancement of electronics, these types of pastors can become bigger than life, being broadcast to multiple locations and reaching thousands through video and internet. Accordingly, pastors can begin to judge themselves in comparison to these bigger than life images. Also, churches can begin to judge their pastors by those they see on the internet, hear on the radio, watch on TV, or read from the Christian bookstore.

Unfortunately, lay leaders can be seduced by their own egos to be a part of a “successful” church and become authoritarian toward pastors, too.With this marriage of past and present the stage is set for a culturally acceptable form of spiritual abuse. In some circles it’s called “Pastoral Authority.” In other circles it is “Congregational Authority.” In my opinion, in all circles, it is an “identity crisis.” Both, pastors and churches, are getting their identity from culture instead of from Jesus.

In the New Covenant we are all (re)born equally and called equally. Maybe at Christmas time we would do well to remember that the one whose birth we celebrate was born Savior, Prophet, Priest, and King. He alone has authority inherent in His Person and Position. He alone rules His kingdom. He alone fulfilled all the roles of the Old Covenant completely and perfectly. He alone absolutely and faultlessly represented God to people and people to God. He alone is the one and only God-Man. If the local church is His then He is her Authority. As our authority He is our identity.There is to be a harmony and melody between pastors and people. Not a blind following due to authoritarian roles but a relationship built on personal knowledge, reputation and giftedness. Eugene Peterson interprets Hebrews 13:7 “Appreciate your pastoral leaders who gave you the Word of God. Take a good look at the way they live, and let their faithfulness instruct you, as well as their truthfulness. There should be a consistency that runs through us all. For Jesus doesn’t change—yesterday, today, tomorrow, he’s always totally himself.” Then in verse 17, “Be responsive to your pastoral leaders. Listen to their counsel. They are alert to the condition of your lives and work under the strict supervision of God. Contribute to the joy of their leadership, not its drudgery. Why would you want to make things harder for them?” You see in this interpretation that a relationship between people and pastors is developed through a willingness for each to serve the other. Pastors receive a positive reception, responsiveness, and respect in direct proportion to their willingness to relate their lives to the congregation and employee their gifts in service to the congregation. Congregations are to give this positive reception, responsiveness, and respect as they, in relationship with their pastors, observe the identity of Jesus throughout the lives of their pastors. Christ is “seated far above all rule and authority and power and dominion” (Eph. 1:21) and as servants of His, we serve each other in “the fullness of Him who fills all in all” (Eph. 1:23).

It is impossible to serve one another as is defined in Hebrews without people and pastor being in a growing relationship with each other. The bases of this relationship is a recognition that Christ is the Head and each submits to Him and that one is not more “full of Christ” than the other. In fact, maybe it takes “all” to experience the totality of the fullness of Christ since He “fills all in all.”Regardless of the time period, churches don’t need another Savior, Prophet, Priest, or King. We need servants who will demonstrate Jesus, regardless of whether those servants are called pastors, elders, deacons, teachers, councils, leaders, committees, or members.

May we all find our identity in Christ and learn to live in Christ. If we do, we will become servants like Christ. Then pastors and people will not be campaigning for authority but will be serving one another--accepting one another, respecting one another, appreciating one another, knowing one another.


I thought you might need the reminder and enjoy the reading of this prophetic word as I did. My blog fast will be over after our 48th wedding anniversary on May 28th.

Paul Burleson